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How to Avoid small talk and make your conversation endless.

How to Avoid small talk and make your conversation endless.

A conversation is one of the most basic interactions that you can have with another person and it also happens to be one of the most misunderstood. A lot of guys want to get better at talking to girls or just people in general and when you ask them what the problem is?
They tell you that they don't know what to say! What you're about to learn will help you to master conversations and make it so much easier to hold a conversation with anyone, but first, there's something that you must understand.
A conversation with an attractive girl or even just some guy that you met at a car meet was never meant to be scripted. Tv Ads are scriptedHollywood movies are scripted, a script works great for these purposes but it doesn't work well for real life.

A conversation is a kind of like the old saying, you can lead a horse to the water but you can't make it drink. I can do my best to lead you to the water and to help you to understand how and why social situations work the way that they do. But only you can choose to drink the water. Put simply, only you can choose the exact words to say during a conversation.
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One of the greatest secrets of becoming a master conversationalist comes from Dale Carnegie and at its core, it is about focusing more on being interested in what the other person has to say as opposed to trying to be interesting to the other person.

As humans, we all have the psychological need to feel important. When you show that you're genuinely interested in what somebody is saying, the other person feels this connection and it makes them feel important. Think about your favorite video game or something else that you're really interested in and love talking about.
Now imagine if somebody approached you and started talking to you about it, you could probably talk for a long time about it.

And by the time you're done, you'll feel like you just had an amazing conversation with the other person. Because sharing your knowledge about that topic made you feel important in the process. This is one of the secrets to mastering conversation. You have to understand that as humans we all love talking about ourselves or things that we're passionate about.
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So basically what you need to do is truly be interested in what the other person is talking about and try to move away from boring small talk. While moving closer to passionate interesting things as quickly as possible. To sum this up into a single sentence, it's better to be interested in the other person than trying too hard to make yourself seem interesting to them.

The second secret to holding a conversation with anyone is all about energy. In fact, pretty much every social interaction comes down to the energy that you're sending out into the world. You could say all of the wrong things but if you're sending out the right energy you'll still do well with other
people. As corny as this sounds, at a subatomic level everything in the entire universe.
According to some of the latest theories is really just energy dancing around in different combinations. Your current mindset is what determines the type of energy you're broadcasting to other people.

In other articles, we always talk about turning social interactions into a game when you're improving your social skills for the first time or when you're simply reawakening old social skills that have been dormant. The reason why this game technique works so well is that it shifts your mindset from primarily fear to primarily fun, curiosity, and excitement.

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All humans are naturally curious and the energy that you produce in this state of mind is infectious and extremely attractive. This energy is what gets girls excited and it can dramatically improve your
conversation skills. For a conversation to flow almost effortlessly you should always try to approach people with this mindset.
I get emails all the time from guys asking what they should say during a conversation or specific lines that they can use and the truth is that conversations should never be scripted. To sum it all up, conversations should flow naturally and if you ever have trouble holding a conversation because you don't know what to say! The path of least resistance is to simply get the other person talking about themselves or something that they're very passionate about.
Now the second secret to mastering conversation is all about energy. Try to approach every social interaction like it's a game and enter into the mindset of curiosity, fun, and excitement.

As mentioned earlier I can only lead you to the water, you must choose to drink from it. And with that said, always remember the inner lion that lives within each of us and understand that you can do anything that you set your mind too. 

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